tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-60740750183722638262024-02-22T13:32:00.767-05:00Rants, Ramblings, and Other 'R' WordsThis blog is something I've wanted to do for some time. You might call it my brainchild, seeing as it'll be the result of whatever I decide to spew from my mind.Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-79646784113040922010-12-26T22:29:00.002-05:002010-12-26T22:29:59.477-05:00RIP Blogspot?I'm thinking of just retiring this blog.<br />
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I have my Tumblr. I liked having a medium for solely textual posts, but I do favor my Tumblr more.<br />
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So here goes a temporary hiatus on this guy.<br />
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Rest in peace.Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-25366880439655843902010-12-26T19:50:00.000-05:002010-12-26T19:50:18.663-05:00Feels Like A Less Jack Nicholson-y Shining.So yesterday was Christmas. Let's give Christmas a round of applause. Yeah. Good holiday.<br />
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But now it's the day after Christmas. And today was the day, NYC and the surrounding areas was hit with a blizzard. I woke up to a sea of white trapping everyone in my uncle's house. It's been said that the snow would get as high as two feet. Which is a lot. And the blizzard warning is in effect until 6pm tomorrow supposedly.<br />
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So I've kind of just been in the house all day. To be honest, I probably would've stayed inside all day anyways. But this massive snowfall gives it an eerie feel to it. There are a bunch of other people around the house too, but for the most parts, the house is generally un-lit. So it's been feeling like night for a while. And it's hard to see outside the windows.<br />
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I suppose I feel trapped.<br />
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Not that I had some grandiose plans that have been interrupted. But nonetheless, I'm stranded. I can't really drive in these conditions. And I'm stuck(not necessarily in a bad way) with the same group of people. Everyone seems to be wandering around looking for something to do, in these dark hallways. I'm just sitting in one of the bedrooms while my cousin Ryan is on another bed in here, on his laptop. Oh! We also just watched the new reboot of <i>Nightmare on Elm Street</i>. Jackie Earle Haley is pretty cool guy. He plays Freddy Kreuger. But he's also played Rorshach in <i>Watchmen</i> and the sketchy, but awesomw Guerrero in Fox's show, <i>Human Target</i>. Not a bad movie. But I was also on AIM the whole time. So don't take my word for it.<br />
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Back to this doomed, trapped feeling...<br />
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...well, yeah. I feel trapped. Maybe I'll go outside into the snow. But I have no boots with me. And I hate the cold. And getting wet, sans the shower. Which leads me to believe I shouldn't go outside.<br />
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Yeah, driving conditions must suck. I wonder how many car accidents there have been because of it. It'd suck to have died the day after christmas. Atleast I still my laptop. I can escape via the internet. More than there being a lot of snow. It's so gloomy and dark. It makes today seem like some dark and foreboding time.<br />
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And I have a cold. I hate getting sick. It rarely ever happens. But since I don't have my own room here and we're all trapped, the chances of getting sick is higher with the forced contact. People get sicker in winter, not because of the cold temperatures directly. But because the cold outside, forces us to stay indoors and in closer physical contact. Making it easier to spread sickness.<br />
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<u>THE MORE YOU KNOW.</u><br />
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I guess that's all I have to offer you right now, if you considered that, anything at all.<br />
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Sidenote: I want to make the time investment into Krav Maga again.Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-4648590216750103192010-12-24T03:54:00.002-05:002010-12-24T03:58:28.202-05:00Apparently It's Christmas Eve......and I had no idea it'd be here this quick.<br />
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I can't be the only one who feels like this "holiday season" totally snuck up on me. School finished not even a week ago. And since I had school straight from September, sans Thanksgiving break, I feel like I came home looking for a break, only to be thrust into the chaos of <b>CHRISTMAS SHOPPING</b>.<br />
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Seriously, for a holiday meant to exude merriness, cheer, generousity, kindness, and so on, so forth--I hate people more than ever. Ok, not <i>hate</i> per se. But they do frustrate me much more, than usual. I'll admit, I can get annoyed while driving at those around me, for incompetent driving manuevers and poor driving etiquette, but for the most part, I am pretty laidback and patient with even the most moronic folks. Really though? C'mon, this is a little much.<br />
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Accounting for the moral of the season and the overarching themes that are publicized, I find that people tend to be more <b>temperamental, impatient, rude, and just overall mean</b>. This holiday season has people at each other's throats maybe because they're on the clock and under pressure to get the "<i>perfect</i> gifts." But this unneccesary emphasis on getting the "<i>perfect</i> gifts," has people showing their worst sides. I mean, I understand. We all have people in our lives we care about and want to impress with our thought and consideration via the presentation of a physical manifestation of our affection...in other words, a present. To what end though?<br />
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I mean, some of my griefs are inevitable. Considering where I live is already congested like hell, this shopping hysteria has the roads filled to max capacity, sometimes full for multiple blocks, making a typical 10 minute drive...into a half hour. Ok, traffic sucks. I get it. I'll deal for these next few days. But not only am I wasting more gas and more time than usual, but the quality of drivers is at an all-time low. I suppose that with the overall number of drivers increasing, we might assume that proportionally, the percentage of horrible drivers would also go up. People are cutting people off like it's their job, no one remembers what a signal is for, traffic laws go out the window, and no one wants to let anyone go. Because <u>we</u> are our own priority. <u>We</u> are what matters because <u>we</u> are in a hurry. Worse, the mall parking lot is so congested that cars roam like vultures and fight aggressively for a stupid spot closer to the entrance, lest they walk. God forbid they get some exercise. I know in one instance, two cars got into an accident over a spot. I wonder if it was worth it then.<br />
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I know that, personally, I had to slam hard on my brakes because some dumb girl was in such a rush, she neglects to look at whether the cars with a green light are going. Cause, why would cars with a green be driving? Nah, she was a bright one to run across the street like she was a damn frog with respawns. Luckily, my years of video gaming have honed my periphs and reflexes. Otherwise, she wouldn't have made it across the street to...<b>WALGREENS?</b> What a crappy place to die for. What're you doing? Getting someone a gift from there? Some cough syrup maybe? Or store brand snacks? I know I wouldn't want to leave this life getting hit by a car while running to a drug store.<br />
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I don't know. I wonder about people sometimes. It's upsetting that everyone is so trapped and entwined in their daily happenings and their lives that they neglect to look at the larger picture and the irrational decisions/actions they make or take. Isn't this the time of year where we try a little harder to reach out to others? To strangers? Maybe do something nice with no regard for whether that deed will be returned. What does it say about your character if you only care to look out for and benefit those, who are likely and clearly able to reciprocate? Why buy gifts for people, hoping that they will get you a gift in return? Just save your damn money, get it for yourself, and stop putting up this silly facade of genuinely caring.<br />
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I guess this time of a year, really expresses what your priorities are and what kind of person you want to be regarded as.<br />
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<blockquote>As we struggle with shopping lists and invitations, compounded by December's bad weather, it is good to be reminded that there are people in our lives who are worth this aggravation, and people to whom we are worth the same. - Donald E. Westlake</blockquote>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-40860658536301841002010-12-16T02:52:00.000-05:002010-12-16T02:52:01.787-05:00Synopsis of the Mind.<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WG21cTg13lE">Menomena- Oahu</a><br />
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So, what did I come here with the intention of writing? Good question, but a trick question...don't mind me. I'm borderline delirious from the mass amounts of music history I've been absorbing (all thanks to an awesome and terribly persistent girlfriend).<br />
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But yeah. I think more than seeking to express some grandeur thought, I was hoping to find some solace in the act of writing itself. I don't know what it is that I find soothing/relaxing. I suppose just being able to empty my thoughts and emotions onto this electronic paper, allows me to rest with nothing consuming my mind.<br />
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I literally just spent...fifteen minutes, typing a whole paragraph or so, only to erase it on the basis that it served no purpose. Oh well...<br />
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So this semester went by, <i>extremely fast</i>. I feel like my classes hadn't even gotten into full swing yet. And <b>BAM</b>. Semester, complete. Half of my sophmore year in college is done, and I still feel like I have no clue what this college business entails.<br />
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I guess I can recount what has been accomplished these past few months:<br />
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<ul><li>Got very familiar with my car, once driving 700 miles in one weekend.</li>
<li>Familiar with drive between home and school; 3 hour car trips ain't got nothin' on me.</li>
<li>Declared my major as: American PPL[Political Science, Philosophy, and Law].</li>
<li>First semester as a full fledged brother within my fraternity.</li>
<li>Passed the 9000 song mark on iTunes.</li>
<li>Found an amazingly awesome, and awesome-ly amazing girlfriend who I'm crazy about. <3</li>
<li>Had a semi-successful "DREAMTEAM Weekend," with my awesome friends. Part two is soon to be announced...</li>
<li>Committed blogger to Tumblr, and part-time with Blogspot(which is linked to my Tumblr).</li>
<li>Officially done with math/science classes, <u>forever</u>. </li>
</ul><div>That's all I can recall, in my semi-aware state of consciousness at this moment. I'm sure there's more, but all in all, based on just the aforementioned bullets, I'd say it was a pretty good semester.</div><div><br />
</div><div>It's scary to think how fast time has been flying though. I'd hate for me to miss out on the times I should be savoring, only to realize I'm a middle-aged dude working full-time left with the remnants of memories from my younger years. I don't think this semester was <i>as eventful</i> as it could be, but I'm hoping to kick things up a notch come 2011. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Speaking of which, switching to using the new year is always so annoying. Gah. Whatever, I guess that it's a fact of life. Atleast next semester I'm somewhat excited for my course load. I think it'll be enjoyable, or at the bare minimum, interesting:</div><div><ol><li>Arabic 102</li>
<li>Criminal Procedure</li>
<li>The Literature of War</li>
<li>Political Islam</li>
</ol><div>Yup. So I guess we'll see come May how that goes. Currently, I'm looking to find a job for over Winter Break. I'd like to have some steady income. If only, to put gas in my car. </div></div><div><br />
</div><div>Alright. I'm done telling you about my life. Go away. Ahaha.</div><div><br />
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</div><div>Night.</div>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-63047822852876753862010-12-09T18:06:00.001-05:002010-12-09T18:06:06.180-05:00Don't let anyone make you second guess yourself. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't make a decision without thinking it through completely/believing it was the right thing.As long as you're happy, they will be too eventually. As soon as they get over themselves<p class="formspringmeAnswer">I'm really starting to wish I knew who these anonymous nice comments were from! But I'm glad you had such a well thought out comment and it appears you actually know me a little better than these other people...yes. The angry commenters. Either way, thanks for the encouragement! =]]]</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-16971546267320461032010-12-08T17:55:00.001-05:002010-12-08T17:55:50.470-05:00You are such a generous, caring guy.
These people are assholes, looking for their 15 minutes of fame. Don't worry about them. You deserve the best. :)<p class="formspringmeAnswer">Wow. I'm really glad that in spite of the comments hating on me, more people have come and spoken out against them, on my behalf. I'm not even sure if I deserve the compliments being given, but I'm grateful that some people are good friends who care.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-5336569458988693582010-12-08T00:29:00.001-05:002010-12-08T00:29:12.896-05:00Holy Crap Mike! I cannot believe how many people care about your dating history. I guess their own lives are not interesting enough. Don't you wish your formspring was idiot proof? Then you could answer the relevant questions. -Wyoma<p class="formspringmeAnswer">This is why I love you, Wyo. Clearly, we're not the only ones who thinks these people are a little invested.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-83815623407131346962010-12-07T23:55:00.001-05:002010-12-07T23:55:00.438-05:00fuck the haters. saints all day<p class="formspringmeAnswer">SAINTS ALL DAY, BABY. <br /><br />Yitbos, my brother.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-54611613926793048592010-12-07T21:35:00.001-05:002010-12-07T21:35:32.030-05:00Can you please let these lifeless lames that are coming at your neck know that I won't hesitate to come up there with the wal-mart security guards and the 7-11 crew to kick some ass...I'm just sayin...<p class="formspringmeAnswer">Ahahahahaha. Possibly one of THEE best reactions. Man, I'm starting to be grateful for the hate--only to because of people like you.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-67515645426682932552010-12-07T16:29:00.001-05:002010-12-07T16:29:15.608-05:00Wooooooooow people needa get lives dude. Too concerned with all your shit that aint their business. Nice responses though lol<p class="formspringmeAnswer">I love the people who comment on the other comments. You guys make my day--well, part of it. Haha. But thanks, I am proud of my answers.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-64873122285870699942010-12-07T12:41:00.001-05:002010-12-07T12:41:18.178-05:00Honestly, if you were with the right girl before, you would not have let her go. What bothers me the most is that you're a heartbreaker and you don't seem to care about anyone but yourself. I hope your new girlfriend knows what she's getting into.<p class="formspringmeAnswer">In this case, based on your statement: "Honestly, if you were with the right girl before, you would not have let her go," then obviously she was NOT the right girl. You are the one making this assertion which would then imply, that me not being with her, would mean I wasn't with the right girl before. But more than that, you clearly don't know me and aren't fully informed on all that went on, so your ability to properly judge as a stranger, is not very qualified.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-72116713010835697282010-12-07T12:40:00.001-05:002010-12-07T12:40:04.180-05:00mike kumar is the biggest sweetheart do these people know you???<p class="formspringmeAnswer">Haha. Thanks, whoever this is. I appreciate your kindness and your willingness to stand up for me. And I'm going to assume, no, they don't know me.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-52824283483099863172010-12-07T12:38:00.001-05:002010-12-07T12:38:41.649-05:00Honestly, if you were with the right girl before, you would not have let her go. What bothers me the most is that you're a heartbreaker and you don't seem to care about anyone but yourself. I hope your new girlfriend knows what she's getting into.<p class="formspringmeAnswer">In this case, based on your statement: "Honestly, if you were with the right girl before, you would not have let her go," then obviously she was NOT the right girl. You are the one making this assertion which would then imply, that me not being with her, would mean I wasn't with the right girl before. But more than that, you clearly don't know me and aren't fully informed on all that went on, so you ability to properly judge as a stranger, is not very qualified.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-8490478961436254152010-12-07T12:27:00.001-05:002010-12-07T12:27:20.460-05:00Some obscure family member you never knew has died and left you with a million dollars. What do you do with it?<p class="formspringmeAnswer">Probably put the majority of it away into investments, then I would pay for any debts/costs that I've incurred. Once I start making enough revenue, I'd build the most ballin' house with secret rooms....yeah. But keep raking more in.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-54002113753386716572010-12-07T12:25:00.001-05:002010-12-07T12:25:11.801-05:00DUDE I CANT SLEEP O_O;; HOW DO I SLEEP WHAT IS SLEEP<p class="formspringmeAnswer">Ahahaha. You can't sleep? I have trouble going to sleep anytime before 1-2am. And that would be early. But if you want some company when you are having trouble sleeping--I'm up pretty late.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-88400927992731884962010-12-07T02:48:00.001-05:002010-12-07T02:48:55.921-05:00u jakass. u had the rite girl and never took her seriously.<p class="formspringmeAnswer">I really, really hope you're attempting to make your spelling that horrible in an attempt to disguise your identity.<br /><br />Secondly, it's over. But apparently you can't wrap your head around that? And if I "never took her seriously," couldn't you argue that it's better off this way so that she could find the right guy? Rather, you're suggesting I remain in a relationship with her, even if it's not in HER best interest--but mine.<br /><br />You're retarded. Sorry. Go to sleep.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-40325761638321848452010-12-07T01:07:00.001-05:002010-12-07T01:07:44.344-05:00Fuck da h@ta$~<p class="formspringmeAnswer">Hahaha. <3 you.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-18537177363510557952010-12-07T01:06:00.001-05:002010-12-07T01:06:44.029-05:00you have not learned anything from your past relationships because you are still as immature and you make the same horrible mistakes that will come back and screw you over.<p class="formspringmeAnswer">Ok, so out of the 3-4 posts I got that are either from the same person/group, this was the one I saved for last. As said in my other response, I'm going to go ahead and abstain from responding to further posts/questions with no underlying foundation. Because, at the heart of it, you're just being a pathetic, annoying, and sad person whose life is surely to reflect this. Maybe not now, but eventually. I find it disappointing that you feel the need to make claims with nothing to back it up. And I'm going to go ahead and assert I'm fairly sure who is responsible/involved. But what I find confusing, is that, you require formspring to state you opinions. What this tells me is, that you're probably fake/two-faced with your friends. Why? Well, if you must hide in the anonymity to speak your mind and try to provide the illusion that we're still friends in every other capacity, you're clearly lacking some balls. I mean, there's no way around it--if you want to have a serious conversation or atleast own up to your words, you could post publicly and not post anonymously. But to maintain the facade that we are friends in some other respect, because you clearly haven't offended me publicly or revealed who you are, is what I find shameful. I wish you the best and hope that one day you realize the err of YOUR ways. Sorry to let you down, but I hope that you take something away from this.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-78781010518283638032010-12-07T00:53:00.001-05:002010-12-07T00:53:25.891-05:00I'm not sure what provoked such affection/admiration, so I'm inclined to assume this isn't serious--but if you are, I'm flattered. I'm a pretty friendly guy, so feel free to talk to/text me.
Please read this and NOT think you are a tool.<p class="formspringmeAnswer">I'm really at a loss for what you're seeking to accomplish? Am I supposed to be emotionally torn because a random person thinks I'm a tool...cause I'm really not. But while we're on the subject, I think you're a tool too. And my reasoning? For bothering with even posting this.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-59443897681415810492010-12-07T00:51:00.001-05:002010-12-07T00:51:48.917-05:00STOP THINKING YOU ARE SMART.<p class="formspringmeAnswer">You're right. I'm dumb. What was I thinking?<br /><br />Oh, and I was being sarcastic, in case you didn't pick up on that.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-14319706671810934962010-12-07T00:50:00.001-05:002010-12-07T00:50:46.786-05:00yea i saw your whole retaliation post about relationships and you're still huge tool. you are a very pretentious person who thinks they know a great deal about everything, while in reality I'm not sure you quite know anything at all.<p class="formspringmeAnswer">Alright, awesome. Thanks for the input.<br /><br />But on a more serious note, you fail to provide any justification. You're entitled to your opinions, and I'm entitled to not caring. If you have anything to say that isn't just subjective mindless epiphanies you have, you know where to find me. But if you just waste words and time, then I'm going to go ahead and ignore you.</p><p class="formspringmeFooter"> <a href="http://formspring.me/mkumar?utm_medium=social&utm_source=blogger&utm_campaign=shareanswer">Ask me anything</a></p>Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-18327342282618388772010-12-03T12:15:00.001-05:002010-12-03T12:33:49.882-05:00On That Note...I was doing some thinking, partially because of a certain formspring post-<br />
<blockquote>"You are the last person on earth I would ever want relationship advice from. Your relationship track record is pitiful and that blog post was a complete JOKE."</blockquote>Also because I feel like this needs to be addressed in general because maybe it wasn't completely clear in my last post:<br />
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I never claimed to be <i>perfect</i> or <i>all-knowing</i> when it comes to relationships. Not in any way, shape, or form. I mean, let's be honest, who is?<br />
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But I don't think it's contestable that along the way, I've observed or picked on somethings. Whether these were things I got from just thinking, or whether my SO fell short, or I fell short--it doesn't make the advice/suggestions any less true. Therefore, whether I'm credible or not, if the advice is pretty standard and generally agreeable to almost everyone, I don't see the issue. <br />
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I can be an awesome sports column writer, but that doesn't imply that I'm the next All-Star player in whatever sport. [And no, I'm not saying I'm an awesome writer, just making a point.] Further, that whole argument is based on the fact that <i>I'm absolutely horrible at relationships</i>, which I don't think is entirely true. I admit that I'm flawed, but I do believe I put a lot of effort into my relationships, which is evident in their longetivity and seriousness. So I find that to be a moot point.<br />
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And along those lines, I believe that not every relationship is <i>the be all, end all.</i> I think relationships serve their purposes in your life, to help you grow, learn about yourself, and how you are with others. You also get to learn what matters to you and what you can let go. That's why I'm not of opinion that you can fall in love <b>only once</b>. I don't think anyone has the ability to judge someone else's emotions/affection, so all you can do is evaluate yourself.<br />
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Thinking back, I don't know if I completely regret any relationship, even the really bad ones. I did take something away from them all and it helped shape me into who I am today. In addition to that, I <i>am</i> glad that they all ended when they did, because I think it was all for the best, even if I didn't want to accept it as such at the time. <br />
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TL;DR- I don't claim to be the best boyfriend[though I don't think I'm the worst] but I do claim to know a thing or three about relationships and will continue to write as I see fit.<br />
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formspring.me/mkumarMike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-23355039662209762282010-11-30T23:48:00.001-05:002010-11-30T23:56:32.297-05:00So I Noticed That "Relationship" Is An 'R' Word..I was originally going to just write about the <i>Semesterly Slump</i> that occurs near the end of the semester, after which you lack all motivation[if you were even motivated before it] and you just vegitate until school concludes. But no.<br />
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I realized that, out of all my posts so far, I don't believe I've touched upon relationships. And that was surprising, because that's something that I've had many a discussions on and many ideas about. Relationships are something I think I'm...qualified to talk about? Actually, I'd rather go with experienced. I'm pretty sure everyone who knows me has joked atleast once about my inability to remain single. Pretty sure bets have been made about how long I can ride solo. <_<<br />
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So yeah. And let me clarify, I'm not incapable of being single. It's not an emotional/relational deficiency I suffer from. It's preferential and coincidental. I'm sure people who are living it up single-style and going crazy are content with their arrangement and couldn't comprehend the appeal of a relationship. Likewise, as someone who has experienced fulfilling relationships and is currently involved in one[quite happily at that], I don't see why anyone <b>wouldn't</b> want a relationship. I mean, when you have a healthy and happy relationship where you truly feel emotionally/affectionately secure--I don't see what else could bring you down. And I say coincidental, because contrary to what most people believe, I don't actively go seeking a new girlfriend after every break-up. It just so happens that not too much time has to be spent waiting around, before an awesome, amazing, compatible, and quality girl happens to come into my life. And I don't know why I <i>wouldn't see where things go</i>. I mean, I'm not just settling for the next broad that walks around the corner, I believe the girls I'm referring to were very fitting for me and that's what's so odd. Oh well, I'm very hap with ths arrangement, hinthint winkwink, I'm talking about you!<br />
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But I digress, I think I'm going to only write about one aspect of relationships tonight. But seeing as I really enjoy this topic, I look forward to writing more about other facets.<br />
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To transition into what I want to focus on tonight, I'm going to look to one of the greatest minds of the century, a true relationship expert:<br />
<blockquote>"Be the change that you want to see in the world."</blockquote><blockquote> -Mohandas Gandhi</blockquote>Ok, I lied. He's not exactly a renowned <i>relationship expert.</i> But he was onto something! I think there a lot of times in any relationship, where things kind of become...stagnant. And both parties involved maybe feel like everything is stale. Or maybe one person doesn't feel the other is as vocal or affectionate to them anymore. Perhaps someone feels overlooked and underappreciated. These are all common issues that I've faced, from both perspectives, and I know others have experienced. Or maybe, you're just sitting there hoping __________ will suddenly become spontaneous and exciting and re-kindle the hurricane of emotions and romance that was there at the start. Unfortunately, a lot of times the reason said person doesn't do what you expect/want isn't just an intentional act of spiting you. Many times, it's simply a result of ignorance and lack of awareness.<br />
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That's where my iconic brown man comes in! And I promise, this doesn't involve having to passively accept any physical harm in an act of civil disobedience! No, instead, you have to be that change you're looking for in your significant other. On that note, if you want your girlfriend/boyfriend to make you feel loved/special, maybe you need to do it first. The other way to approach this, would be to subtly/not-so-subtly tell them, but I think you should atleast try this method first. By doing so, you'll instill the appreciation and satisfaction that you're yearning for, in them, while being an awesome SO. And when they feel that way, I'd like to think that they'll turn around and look to reciprocate. AND THAT, is exactly what we were hoping for. I'd also like to suggest, that when they do reciprocate whatever you wanted them to, make sure to help them realize how thankful/appreciative/special you feel/how much you like it. Again, I may be making assumptions, but in my experience, most good SO's will want to repeat said event/thing for the sake of your happiness.<br />
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I also heed you not to stubbornly sit tight and anticipate the other member of your couple to figure out for themselves and act first. This is a dangerous mindset to take and is turning what's supposed to be a caring, selfless, and nurturing relationship into one that may devolved into an arduous, chore-like, and tiring relationship.<br />
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And for those of you reading this, try to think about this while you're at it, what can you do to make your SO happier? What is something you don't do enough? Say enough? What can you do differently? What is something, as small or silly as it may be, that you know will be appreciated? It can be something as miniscule as telling them how you admire/enjoy a certain characteristic about them without provocation. Enjoy. I hope this wasn't too all over the place.<br />
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Relationship Tip #1: As nice as holidays and birthdays are, gifts/compliments/acts of love are <b>exponentially better</b> without a reason. So go say something or do something nice, just cause. =DMike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-39288134855504741422010-11-16T01:53:00.001-05:002010-11-16T02:02:08.360-05:00Talk About Being Inconsiderate...Today, I've come to the conclusion that the majority of people in this world are so self-absorbed and self-centric that they fail to recognize how annoying/frustrating/disliked they are by those around them.<br />
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The number of times I've wanted to just punch someone in the face today, surpasses the number of times I probably wanted to this past month.<br />
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<b>REALLY, PEOPLE?</b> Yeah, it's totally fine if you go through the single door and stand in the middle of it blocking the entire path as you have a conversation as meaningless as your current life. OH, and by the way--you're fat. Maybe if you didn't roll yourself to class, I could shimmy by you. <_<<br />
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No, but it didn't end there. Is it that difficult to hold a door open for someone else nowadays? I mean, you waiting for...what? <i>Ten seconds AT most,</i> would probably save someone else a minute. Where do you have to go in such a rush? ...actually. I take that back. <u>I do not believe--I know your life isn't that important</u>. Alright, fine. Maybe 1 out of every 100 people actually have something legitimate they're hurrying off too. The rest of you are just selfish. It's just polite and courteous to linger for that extra second or two. I DO IT FOR YOU, for goodness sakes. <br />
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I have some demands I'd like to make. Yes, demands.<br />
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<ol><li>Open your eyes and look around. Start being aware of the fact that other people exist around you, so stop friggin' taking up the whole hallway because you were a few chromosomes short and don't know how to walk,</li>
<li>Hold doors. Hold it for people coming inside. Hold them for people behind you to atleast get to it. Hold it if you see someone holding stuff. I'm sure they're not looking forward to trying to use their feet to open the door. Hold the door if you see someone that appears to be also going through the door after you, you won't die for waiting. </li>
<li>And among these, <b>please</b> use words like "please, thank you, and excuse me." <b>Thank you</b>. It just makes you a bit classier, and trust me--that bit will mean the world of the difference. </li>
<li>Just be considerate. Don't talk about things that no one wants to know or should know about, other than you. Yes, this includes talking about yourself.</li>
<li>Listen to people. Instead of waiting for your turn. Try going a conversation without talking if you're not prompted.</li>
<li>Clean up after yourself. No, I'm not your mom. I'm not going to ground you. Instead, I'm going to be pissed and clean it up myself because I actually have some dignity and don't want to give off the impression that I piss and defecate where I live, work, stay, and sleep. I get it, you were busy. What about the fact that it's been two weeks? Stop being so lazy. Holy crap. </li>
</ol>I know I seem angry. I'm actually a nice guy. But people need to step back for a second and think about this.<br />
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And no, I won't even <i>start</i> to get into driving habits I hate.<br />
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G'night and stop pissing me off. <3<br />
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Love you...well, most of you...Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6074075018372263826.post-19404609464168603082010-10-21T02:00:00.001-04:002010-10-21T02:10:02.041-04:00On Second Thought...So I'm sitting here...have been sitting here...<br />
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Tonight's soundtrack: <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8x-cIeM8s5k">Dirty Cartoons</a> by <i>Menomena</i>, a band I've followed as best as I could. I love the way the emotions in this song shift with the tempo and the subtle bass. <br />
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I had originally intended on writing a post on a band/artist I'd been enjoying as of late. Because, I'm always getting and playing new[new to my library, that is] music. I will say though, these last few weeks have been slow. Only got ~200 songs in the last two weeks. But to my point, I think I'm going to reserve this blog, this venue, strictly for exactly what the titles says: <u>Rants, Ramblings, and Other 'R' Words</u>. Yes, I'm going to pretend "reviews" does <b>not</b> start with an 'r'. From herein, I'm going to leave music related posts and stuff to my <a href="http://www.leftyknox.tumblr.com/">TUMBLR</a>. So go there, and check out my other fun stuffs.<br />
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For this though, I'm going to do what I do best--improvise. Improvisation is an awesome skill to have. You figure out what you have to work with, and just do whatever the heck you can with that. Very handy, if you get caught in a tight spot. For example, today my group and I decided to skip over the last part of our chem lab because it only required us to "discuss," and not actually write any work. On our way out, our skeptical TA decided to "discuss" the last section to see how exactly we finished so fast. I opened up the book and stared blankly at the question, racking my brain. One of the kid's in my group, had somewhat of a grasp on it and explained it a bit, just enough, for me to jump into the conversation and add so that it seems like we knew what we meant. I also then inadvertently explained another topic, because I remembered the exact definition from another part. With a hint of suspicion in her eyes, our TA let us go. I thought we'd been nabbed. Hahaha.<br />
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That's merely one instance in which it's useful. But I need to stop digressing, like, really stop.<br />
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The <b>future.</b> It's an abstract concept. Does it exist? Sure, we all have plans on things we want to do in the near-future or the long-term, but are we guaranteed that opportunity to carry out and live as we desire? I think that a lot of people, myself included, take the future for granted. We have passions, wishes, hopes, and aspirations--many of which we could pursue now. But we don't. Maybe there's no time now. We have too many things we need to do. We have other obligations. Or maybe it's just something that's too difficult, we think. But...why? Let me ask you, what is something you've always wanted to do? Something you told yourself you'd do, as soon as you got the chance. Something you planned to delve into, once life created that primetime for? And what's holding you back?<br />
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I don't mean to take this post for a depressing twist, but all we can really be sure we're allotted is the present--and even that's iffy. At any moment, any number of things can happen that can damage or potentially alter your life permanently. In that case, any thing you wanted to pursue might have to be shelved, for good. Yet, we take things for granted. We schedule our hopes and dreams on that one day, that one time, when everything is <u>perfect</u>. Who's to say that day will ever come? Not that it <i>can't,</i> but why wait? Go out there. Do what you want to do[legally, I hope] and live the life you've always wanted. In car collisions alone(and almost all of us have/will be in a car on a daily basis), 1,200,000 people died in one year. I would bet my life that they all had plans that they never got to flesh out. If you knew, when you went to sleep tonight, you wouldn't wake up, would you be happy? Would you be content with everything thus far? Or would you plead and beg for more time, an extension of your <b>dead</b>line so that you can fulfill those few things on your bucketlist, if you will?<br />
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I'm a big advocate of living everyday like it's your last. I don't always stick to it, but I try. I'd hate to think the last few hours of my life were spent stressing over a test, arguing with someone close to me over something menial, or just doing something I don't care for. Plus, even if you live to be 1,000 years old, not everyone around you will. And I can't think of anything worse than your final farewell ending on a bad note. No one wants to live with that haunting regret. So try and not be a jerk to people you typically might. Unless you've gained the ability of foresight(if you did, contact me, cause I would like to take advantage of this), none of us can say for certain where life can take us and who life will take. So don't waste your time.<br />
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Get out there. Be happy. Live without regrets, even the bad experiences have something to offer us. Do whatever you never had the balls for.<br />
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Lastly, instead of being a product of life--make life a product of you.<br />
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Feels good to be back. =]<br />
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Night.Mike Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12029846945561368261noreply@blogger.com0